Do Not Resist

How do I get out of suffering when I am completely taken over by the identity that suffers?

The only reason why I suffer is that I am acting through a set of conclusions about reality.
This set of conclusions is based on knowledge, which has no relationship to the present moment. Why?
Knowledge is memory. Memory is of the past. The past has no relationship with the present moment.
As soon as it is "now", it is "now". As soon as it is "past", it is "past".
Therefore, all knowledge is not in relationship with the present moment.
Knowledge can serve me mechanically. To bake a cake. To drive a car. To remember words. But knowledge can never "know" something that is alive. It can never know someone. It can never be free. It can never be in harmony with what is.

An argument is holding on to the past. A grievance is holding on to the past.
When the identity that is holding on to the argument realizes that it is doing so, there is a doorway to freedom from the suffering of the argument. It falls away completely.
This takes something. It takes wanting to be free from suffering. It takes wanting peace over wanting to "be right". The identity wants to be right. Being right makes the identity feel stronger.

The identity is afraid. It lives in fear of being hurt. It has built up defenses, walls, aggression. It doesn't want to let go of those things. It is so afraid.

That is why when it reacts to a strong challenge like an angry person, an insult, feeling inferior or feeling afraid, it takes us over with such force that we become it. We are it.

How do I get out of the identity at that moment? How can I be free at that moment?

The only clue is that I am suffering. I am in pain and I will cause pain if I act from that space.

When I know the true cost, I will stop and cease to act. I will not resist. I will not fight. I will only look until I am still, empty and clear. Then I will move from there.